The control agenda: A trap that looks like a solution

We all have a mind that promises relief through control.

Control your thoughts, it says.
Control your emotions.
Control your stress.
Control your people.
Control your outcomes.

The problem isn’t the desire to control. After all, in certain contexts, control is life-saving. The problem is that we apply control strategies where workability, not domination, is required. 

It felt like magnetic repulsion.

This was the exact wording my client used to describe why she felt frozen – stuck on pause and procrastination taking over. It was though an invisible force was pushing her away from the keyboard, and her mind would just go … … 

B l a n k.

This pure avoidance was driven by an invisible fear. One she couldn’t name until one question broke the spell:

Who taught you to speak to yourself like that?

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Procrastination breakthrough: Hidden pressure

Burnout risk: High with a chance of losing it

Meet my new client.

She’s passionate. Dedicated. An active leader and community member.

Her burnout risk score?

HIGH.

She feels she cannot pull back from work. She’s starting to withdraw. Although exhausted, sleep is a disrupted nightmare.

If she doesn’t take action, she’s on the cusp of losing it all over the next 6-12 months.